Into the second week of PBYC.
This weeks talk was about the Stock Family Syndrome. And that God isn't holding up a perfect picture; He's writing a bigger story.
The chapter starts by asking the question, Is your family the picture you had in mind?
This chapter thens describes that we have tried for so long to set our family up against the picture of the stock family. Picture Perfect. There doesn't seem to be any flaws in the stock family. They seem perfect. And we begin to measure our success, our parenting, our marriage, our everything against this stock family.
The problem is that there is not a family that can measure up against that family. Every family is broken. Every family has problems. And so when we measure up against that, we are then discouraged because we can never be that.
We even try to look to the Bible to try to find that Picture Perfect family, but as you turn pages, and look through books, you will fail to find it. The Bible is riddled with families who are far from perfect and are broken.
"God is not trying to paint a picture of an ideal family....He's writing a story." (page 43)
"It seems like God is more interested in using broken people than He is in creating a better picture...it's as if God is saying, I'm going to use churches and families both composed of broken people, as platforms to demonstrate to the world that I am a God of restoration and redemption." (page 44)
The book challenges us to not focus on our picture, but on the bigger story God desires to illustrate through you.
When we become preoccupied with the Stock family, it is easy to fall into a trap where....
- you feel like you never measure up.
- you lose credibility with other parents who recognize the difference in what you are and what you claim to be.
- you discourage other parents with a standard they can never achieve. (page 46)
The book gives us two different approaches to family.
BETTER PICTURE APPROACH: we try to conform every family to our picture of what family should be.
BIGGER STORY APPROACH: we learn to see every family as a potential platform for God to demonstrate His story of redemption and restoration.
God is more interested in using YOU as a broken person, than YOU trying to be picture perfect. God is more interested in using YOU and all of your pieces to tell His story, than He is with you trying to tell your own story through your perfection.
God has be using families for centuries and throughout history to put His glory on display.
Questions for your to ponder on:
You might not feel like your family is ideal, but what does God feel about the imperfections of your family?
Based on the way God feels about your family, how will that impact the way you view and lead your family?
How might the way you see your family change if you started to have the perspective of God's bigger story, redeeming and restoring your family for His purpose?
Keep the conversation going...what do you think about this?